Overcome Exhaustion

Tired and bad mood womanWe live in a culture which prizes productivity like an Olympic sport. The more productive you are, the busier you are perceived to be a better person.

“You must be a great mom!” You are room mom, soccer mom, work full-time as a teacher, run marathons, volunteer at the church for Vacation Bible School, leap over large mounds of laundry each weekend, and clean the house in a single bound…. Please let me know when you find this woman, and we will have an intervention. Okay?


We (me included) have believed the lie of perfectionism, busyness, and loads of productivity make us a better mom, wife, employee, friend, and over all person. All of this leads to exhaustion, stress, and chaos in our lives.

It is time to stop!

Just stop it all!

Sit down now, and take a few minutes to evaluate. Get off the merry-go-round and push the pause button on LIFE.

Yes, the laundry needs to get done, the house needs to be cleaned, and someone needs to help our overworked and underpaid school teachers as room moms. HOWEVER, YOU cannot do everything for everyone!

Find Rest

I have a few single friends who this applies to as well. This is a universal problem especially in our western culture. Many cultures take time in the middle of the day to rest. We take a break for lunch, or most of us do. Many work through lunch or their lunch includes watching a room full of energetic kids eat their lunch.

If you are running from pre-dawn to the midnight oil, it is time to evaluate your schedule. Write down all the activities your are involved in. (Men, this is you too. You are as guilty as women.) Ask yourself these four questions to evaluate your life.

Time to Evaluate!

Is this activity in line with what you believe God wants for YOU or your family? 

God calls us to minister to others, and to be the hands and feet of Jesus in our church family. However, He did not call us to be involved in every Bible study option, go to every meeting and event the church holds.

God created the family. The family cannot spend time together, because they are all “doing” things for the church or with the church. Don’t forget about basketball, baseball, wrestling, ballet, gymnastics, and cheerleading. All great activities requiring great amounts of time.

This is where you decide for yourself, your kids, and as a family what are the truly important activities, and what can you let go of. This needs to be evaluated through each season.

Does this activity help YOU or your children towards a goal in your life or theirs?

You may be going through college as an adult or grad school. Your child may really love cheering, piano, ballet, baseball or football, and you want to encourage them in their passions. I am all about passion. Passion is a great thing. I am all for kids and adults constantly learning, growing and challenging themselves.

There are seasons in our lives where things may be chaotic and busy. You know what. You can still find some margin. Margin is simply space in your day or rest to breathe deep and relax. I am not talking about mediation exercises. Meditating on God’s word is an important part of margin, however simply rest your mind and body. God designed our bodies to have periods of rest and periods to work. 

Rest allows our brains to process our days, and become more creative and productive when we go back to our projects or sports.

Do you have time alone and time as a family during the season of this activity?

“Self care” is a term mentioned often. Some people, women especially, feel guilty for taking time for themselves. Time to read a book, time to take a nap with four kids running around, time to go out with friends, or even take time to read and study the Bible. Where did this lie come from? Why do we believe this lie? Did you learn this from your own family? Or from others in your life? Our culture?

Working hard is a good work ethic at whatever you do, but working with no time to take care of yourself is insane! How can you give to others if you do not take the time to care for yourself? You need to fuel your own emotions, body, and spiritual self to be able to pour out into others.

If you have taken a flight, you know the flight attendant always gives instructions before taking off in case of a disaster. You are to put on your oxygen mask first, so you can help your children or others around you. Why is that? If you can’t breathe, you can’t help anyone else!

Same for our lives! If you don’t have margin in your life and take care of yourself first, then you will not have the energy, the love, the kindness, the power of God to help you be the woman or man God has called you to be. Fuel your body, emotions, and spiritual life first.

Trying to live on your own power is futile. In John 15:5 God tells us this, “Yes, I am the vine; you are the branches. Those who remain in me, and I in them, will produce much fruit. FOR APART FROM ME YOU CAN DO NOTHING.” (NLT) Let that sink in for a minute.

So, how do you make margin in your life? You surrender it to God,  ask Him to show you where you need to cut, and where you need to add more of Him. Let Him guide you and He will. In Psalm 25:4 David prays, “Show me the right path, O Lord; point out the road for me to follow. Lead me by Your truth and teach me, for you are the God who saves me. All day long I put my hope in You.” (NLT) When you ask God to reveal the right path for you, He will. He wants you to know.

Do you make God a priority by spending time with Him each day?

If your day is so busy you cannot spend focused time with God each day, then you’re too busy. My friends this has been my struggle for years. Yes! I have been too busy! Circle the wagons back around, and stop to spend time with Jesus.

There are many different ways to spend time with Him. I share many ideas in my book iNeed God ~ daily downloads for your heart. It is not about spending a certain amount of time with God each day. It is about building a relationship with Him, and keeping your focus on Him.

If you are exhausted, overwhelmed, and feeling like you are spent, your well has run dry. It is time to come sit at the feet of Jesus like Mary, and choose the better thing to do (Luke 10:38-41). Soak in His goodness and love. Let Him wash over you with peace and wisdom. He will give you hope beyond measure.

He will renew your strength. Ask for His wisdom, and He will guide your steps.

31 but those who hope in the Lord

will renew their strength.

They will soar on wings like eagles;

they will run and not grow weary,

they will walk and not be faint.

~ Isaiah 40:31 NLT ~

How do you create margin in your day???



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About Joyce Glass

Joyce Glass is a writer, speaker, and lover of God's word even more than chocolate! Her desire is to encourage you to walk closer to God. Dig deeper in your faith. Pray in earnest daily for God to teach you His ways, and serve Him right where you live and work now.


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